The “resources” that best lower my personal stress and get me “away’ from the repetition, sadness and isolation I often feel care-giving my mom who’s a “shut-in” include these: listening to certain music I love and reading books I find up-lifting.
I’m reading one right now about a man who’s shared his love of books with his 73-year-old mom his whole life. When mom is diagnosed with cancer and needs companionship during chemo, the son and she form a book club and start a new path in their life together. Sometimes poignant stories of others who find special ways to “give and get” help me: I get new ideas and, oddly, feel less alone.
Similarly with classic oldies I’ve loved, i put on my headphones and rock n’ bob around for a while in my room. Sometimes I even blast it out and dance in front of my mom. The joy of the songs and even the movement are a life-saver, especially since I can’t leave my mom alone.
Ps the book is called: ‘the end of your life book club” by Will Schwalbe.
If anyone has some good books to recommend or other tips, I’d love to hear them!!
Thanks for the wonderful advice! I love the story of dancing around your mom. I think anything we can do to introduce some FUN to our interactions with our parents is really therapeutic… for our parents as well.