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    My mother is 93 almost 94 and she constantly reads medical books and wants to go to the doctor.  She thinks that her eyes should still be 20/20 and everything on her body work like when she was young.  The doctors keep running test and nothing is wrong with her and she won’t let it go.  I wish they would tell her that is the symptoms of old age.  I tell her and she wants to know why I think I am a doctor.  What can i do?

    Martin Connell

    Hi Jeannie,

    You may be right and everything she is experiencing may be just a sign of your mother getting older.  However, I wouldn’t discount her feelings that something is wrong.  You are your own best judge of what’s going on with your body and sometimes even doctors might miss signs or symptoms.  If you keep going to the same doctor, why not try and get a second opinion?  Make sure she knows that you are there for her and show her empathy when she is not feeling well.  Just my 2 cents.


    One of the best things you can do for your Mom and her health is to keep exact records,   When you go to the doctor and they want to do a test remind them when that test was done last .  I had a patient, that his mother liked to have multiple tests done on him.  The best way to deal with her was to remind her that this doctor said the same thing, that this test was just done.  You won’t have the guilt either, because you know this or that was checked.  My Dad loves the attention the Doctors give him.  When he was young he had a disabled brother and probably sometimes he was ignored.  Then he got polio at a young age and got all kinds of attention.  So that is my theory as to why he loves the doctor.  Thank God he still drives himself, and has good insurance.  Maybe look for another way for her to get attention.  Who knows, it might work.  I find the sicker my Mom is the more Dad needs to go to the doctor.  Is there a senior center , or a popular restaurant that older people hang at, thats the place to take Mom.  Is this something new, maybe she is afraid of dying.  Talk to her about her medical concerns, is she religious, maybe she needs a priest, seriouslly.


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