I sadly took encouragement from your struggles. I wonder how things are now 18 months after you posted.
Our father is 90 and deteriorating. He has no insight into his inability to manage a 3,000SF house on 9 acres. He has destroyed almost all the vehicles/tractors. He resents us children and thinks we’re just trying to make his life miserable. He and my mother refused to do a trust years ago when we tried. So now we cannot afford long-term care. By the grace of God we go forward one-step at a time.