I am so grateful for this forum—-to see so many women in situations similar to mine. It helps to know we are not alone. My mom is 91 and has lived with us in her own granny flat for over 7 years. She is now much less independent as age is doing its job. She has several chronic ailments and needs help with daily living. I am in the process of retiring from a demanding career as is my husband of 36 years. I love both of them but feeling trapped at a time I thought I’d be free. This is hard but I grab moments when I do something good for myself and feel like me. One thing that helps me is to focus on special moments with my mom so I have gems to remember and smile. My only sibling died suddenly a few years ago. It was shocking and sad as we had friction over mom’s care. There were too many regrets….life is fleeting and it helps to keep things in perspective. Best to you all on this forum.