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Oh Evette I’m sorry.  It is so hard to give up our independence.  the first thing is what caused the fall.  Did you talk to your doctor, they have to keep a secret.  I am disabled myself, Rheumatoid Arthritis for 17 years.  I always tell my husband if I fall because I feel I wouldn’t want him to not tell me.  We have a relationship and I don’t want to change it.  You have a relationship with your children.  If you are honest and have a plan to keep yourself safe it will help.  How about a “lifeline”  you wear it around your neck or like a watch if you fall you can just push the button.  The system works through your telephone line.  the Lifeline operator will call you when you push button,  then the operator asks you what you need.  they will call who ever you want.  they only send police ambulance if you don’t answer.  Yes, you can accidently set it off, you just tell the operator it was an accident.  No extra charge, they are very pleasant.  My Mom has had one for 5 years now.   The main thing is what call ed the fall.  No loose rugs, good shoes, no flip flops, wide pathways, and definately grabbars in the bathroom.  Call your town social worker ask about first level apartments.  there are assistance programs for senior housing.  You might enjoy being with people your age instead of alone in your kids house while they are at work.  Look for apartment near grocery and good buslines.  Good Luck, tell your kids let them help you.