I feel certain that my parents feel as you do. They don’t want to “burden” me. What makes them decide that it is a burden? Is it a lifestyle change? Yes. Is it a financial expense? Yes…. but those are welcome and expected and not a burden. My parents took care of me, changed my diapers and helped me when I couldn’t walk. Now it’s my turn. It’s called the cycle of life. Its normal, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy… For the parent or the child. “Not easy” is different from “burden”.  What is a burden for me is losing sleep from worrying about my parents, knowing they need help…which in turn affects my job. It’s a burden to want to help, but being afraid to offend their dignity, or make them feel less independent. I would welcome my parents asking for help.  Please help your children to help you.