Hi Debra,

Sounds like you have some tough decisions to make.  I also am having to take care of both my mother and my father and find this quite a challenge even though they are still together.  I don’t think I could ever pick one parent over another but that is just me.  My guilty conscious would get the best of me.  I have a lot of help from family and friends who know the situation that I am in and have given me their support to help me through this.  Have you tried letting your friends or community know that you are in need of help? Sometimes even distant relatives might surprise you and offer their help if they know that you are overwhelmed with the challenges that you face.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help!